"To observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligence." — Jiddu Krishnamurti: 20th century Indian spiritual and philosophical writer
If you're a control freak, consider the peace and contentment you'd feel by accepting and tolerating all the people, events, and things in your life over which you actually have no control. Understand that a need to control stems from spiritual desperation. Yeah — fear of being weak, a bad person, stupid, not good enough, or whatever. In order to release it from controlling YOU, you must figure out what your fear is.
"The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek." — Joseph Campbell: Was a mythologist, author, and lecturer
Begin to let go by resisting the urge to correct other's mistakes or giving them unasked-for advice. Realize that your expectations don't really change other's desires and choices. Be prepared for feelings of self-criticism when you finally release your own stored-up emotions.
"As long as you have certain desires about how it ought to be, you can't see how it IS." — Ram Dass: Spiritual Teacher
Actually listen to other's objections or disagreements instead of just injecting your personal opinion into the discussion. The more you understand someone else's feelings, the easier you can help them make choices which are best for them. Tolerance starts replacing resentments.
"Take personal responsibility. We cannot change the circumstances, the weather or the mind of others, but we can change ourselves." — Ian Dickson
Once you let go enough to let others start taking responsibility for their own lives (the mistakes and the details), you'll start to see how much energy you're wasting by living more than just your life. You can finally slow down, relax, and actually enjoy the moments of your life.
"Life is what happens when you're making other plans." — Art Linkletter
You'll stop holding grudges, become more patient and spontaneous, and actually feel bored with people who give in to you. Life stops being about reaching goals because you realize that's not what makes you a good person.
"The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly." — Buddha: was a spiritual teacher and founder of Buddhism
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