Become WHO You Want to BE

You ARE your Beliefs and Behaviors

1. Since true wisdom comes from knowledge, and knowledge only increases when you keep your mind open to new ideas and suggestions, keep learning new things and experiencing new adventures.
2. Assess your strengths and weaknesses honestly — and then be patient as it's going to take time & consistency to your reach your realistic goals [one small, measurable step at a time].
3. Listen to that small, quiet voice inside your wise heart regarding what you really desire and believe will be the most rewarding course of action for you.
4. Nourish your soul by giving yourself permission to relax, love, and accept for at least five, unrushed, silent minutes each day.
5. A sign of maturity and true wisdom is taking responsibility for living your own life  — without blaming anyone else when it doesn't go the way you want. Understand that no one else really has the power to run your life unless you give it to them, so live your life with the values and experiences that bring you inner peace and happiness.
6. You always have choices — to do something or to refrain from doing something. Although you can't control anyone else, you always have the power to control yourself [your beliefs, feelings, and behavior]. Simply choose to replace your bad habits with good ones.
7. Your reality is based on your perspective so maintain your confidence and self-respect by concentrating [and thereby 'attracting'] only positive energy and thoughts.
8. Accept and understand that everyone makes mistakes, and that is how we all learn the lessons of life.  The shame is not in originally making a mistake but in NOT learning from it and then repeating it.
9. Accept that you have no control over anyone's behavior except your own, AND that you [just like other people] sometimes hurt other people simply because at the time you didn't know any other way to behave.
10. So one of the most awesome, powerful choices you can ever make is to simply forgive everyone who has ever hurt you.  Yes, it CAN be done, and you will no longer feel like a victim.
11. Stop taking everything so personal — you are not so important as to be the center of everyone else's world.
12. Once you've accepted someone else's mistakes and forgiven them for being mere stupid human beings who make bad choices, you will finally be able to let go of your old emotional wounds and access the freedom you've always had to become the person you want to be.