Everyone has feelings (anger, fear, sadness, ambition, shame, envy, frustration, guilt, anxiety, depression, etc), some intense and some vague. Unfortunately, human nature often wants to judge a feeling as being either good or bad. They are neither — but simply messages from our beliefs meant to guide us in making the best choices for our lives. Unfortunately, your beliefs require periodic examination to reject or replace unwanted, unneeded, and unproductive beliefs.
In order to determine what a specific emotion is trying to teach you and to make the best choices for yourself, you must acknowledge and understand the beliefs attached to your feelings about an experience. That requires some deep digging into all those hidden compartments of your mind and heart where those painful and difficult feelings have been 'stuffed' through the years.
As odd as it sounds, the only way to rid yourself of those uncontrollable feelings is to treat them just like germs. When germs are allowed to remain hidden in the body, they cause pain and infection. That infection can also affect behavior by allowing excuses, rationalizations, and justification to hurt other people, animals, and property. However, when a wound is opened and germs are exposed to air and light, they disappear and healing starts. Painful, hidden feelings require the same treatment if you are ever to rid yourself of their influence. Those painful and harmful feelings must be exhumed, examined, and finally eliminated. The process often feels like peeling away layers of an onion as you pull each string of thought from your emotional ball of string. The deeper you go, the more hidden beliefs you uncover.
Determine why you felt that emotion from a specific experience, what the feeling was trying to tell you, what behavior was asked for by the feeling, and most importantly, do you still accept the belief influencing that feeling. There will be pain too as you drill down through years of accumulated feelings. Fortunately, once you've acknowledged and released a painful emotion, it looses it's power to hurt you again. That 'baggage' can no longer affect your present or future.
Imagine living your life today without wasting your time and energy trying to cope with the pain of hidden feelings and obsolete beliefs.
that small voice deep inside everyone but becomes fainter with each painful experience.
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