Wanting to Forgive

Anger wears such deep grooves in your mind that veering from that path becomes more and more difficult with time.  This complicates the healing process of forgiveness.
 
Even though you still feel the hurt and anger from past events, the most important step in healing is to commit to wanting to forgive someone. The benefits of replacing those negative feelings are overall feeling happier plus being able to focus your energy and attention on more enjoyable, productive activities. You may even realize eventually that you like yourself. Your intention alone allows such new, healing feelings as now being nice, good, or smart enough to really deserve more happiness.
"Life is not merely to be alive, but to be well." — Marcus Valerius Martial: Was a Latin poet
With this new attitude, you can begin thinking differently when the memories of old hurts return.  Remind yourself that your old self talk isn't really the way you want to feel, behave, or live your life. Even if you don't actually believe it at first, just continue to tell yourself that you can forgive someone until the day you realize you really HAVE forgiven that person.
 
Change happens when [ but only IF ] you really want it!  Don't shortchange yourself by putting up with unhappy feelings over which only YOU control.
 

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