"And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music." — Friedrich Nietzsche
So you're in a slump, have the blahs, and definitely not feeling the joy about much of anything. You don't really feel like doing anything or communicating with anyone, so maybe you feel like you need to pamper yourself to get rid of the blues. Unfortunately, if you pig out on your favorite munchies and/or just hang around alone all day in your jammies, you're likely to feel even worse from the GUILT of eating unhealthy food and being unproductive and lazy.
"If we keep everything in balance, we are in harmony with ourselves and are at peace." — Fools Crow, LAKOTA
Surprisingly, these actions are just the opposite of what you need to do to kick start your feelings. Alcoholics Anonymous has an expression that says, Fake it 'til you make it, based on the proven fact that actions come before feelings — not the other way around.
"...focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it." — Greg Anderson
And because of this action first, feelings last, expressing negative feelings like anger or sadness are only going to stir up your negative emotions and make you feel worse. Find diversions to stop thinking about your issues, and stop hiding away and feeling sorry for yourself. Get out around people, preferably good friends, or at least go somewhere that perks you up, like a movie, museum, park, zoo, or even a shopping center. Do something you feel good about doing that excites you, like photography or painting, jogging or yoga, cleaning and donating.
"Forget the resolutions. Forget control and discipline...too much work. Instead try experimenting. Go in search of something to fall in love with...something about yourself, your career, your spouse." — Dale Dauten
You can't actually think yourself happy without going through the motions first. Get moving and count your blessing in order to really feel the happiness.
"We must not allow the clock and the calendar to blind us to the fact that each moment of life is a miracle and mystery." — H. G. Wells
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