"Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be" — Abraham Lincoln
Your perspective of the world and your relationships to all the people and things within your view creates whatever happiness and peace you feel. When you see each moment of your life as being blessed, centered, and balanced, with love and understanding, acceptance and tolerance, you have no need for power and control. Controlling your own mind, emotions, and behavior is the ONLY POWER YOU HAVE!
"Seek out that particular mental attribute which makes you feel most deeply and vitally alive, along with which comes the inner voice which says, 'This is the real me,' and when you have found that attitude, follow it." — William James: Was a psychologist and philosopher
Without expectations, you no longer experience disappointments or resentment. Your contentment no longer hinges on any specific event, and you can enjoy the ups and downs of the adventure of life which appear as unexpected gifts from outside your own expectations.
"Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it." — Chief Seattle
You can stop taking everyone else's behavior personally — as if someone or the entire world is concentrating on making your life miserable. Sorry, you're really not that important to most people, especially strangers, so stop taking yourself so seriously!
There is a saying that "happiness is nothing more than good health and bad memory",so promote good health and choose what you remember and think about.
Your fears of abandonment, failure, inadequacy, or weakness are all conditioned responses — created by a shortage of love — from even well-meaning family and friends. When a loved one looks at and treats you in a certain way, you unconsciously behave as if that person's perspective is an unchanging, undeniable truth. As unpleasant as it is, identifying and healing these wounds which diminish your confidence and self worth is critical to being able to tap into your real inner strength and energy. When a painful memory surfaces, feel it completely and compassionately to dissipate it's energy.
"The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly." — Buddha: was a spiritual teacher and founder of Buddhism
Anger is a secondary emotion, useful only to get your attention and prompt immediate action. Afterwards it is simply concealing hurt feelings. Hanging onto to past anger and hurt requires an enormous amount of your energy. So even if you can't quite manage to forgive someone's past painful actions against you, at least let go of wanting revenge. Accept and trust that everyone pays for their mistakes sooner or later!
"I don't forgive people because I am weak — I forgive them because I am strong enough to know that people make mistakes." — Unknown
Enjoy life now — it has an expiration date!
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