"Every achiever that I have ever met says, 'My life turned around when I began to believe in me.'" — Dr. Robert H. Schuller
In order to make the best choices for yourself, you need to be committed to taking good care of yourself. Admit to yourself that you WANT to feel good instead of bad, that you want to be treated with respect and consideration by others, and that you want to enjoy your life. That does NOT mean you are against, gruel to, or inconsiderate of others — simply that you understand you can't love and help others without FIRST loving and taking care of yourself.
"It is never about how good your voice is; it is only about feeling the urge to sing, and then having the courage to do it with the voice you are given." — Katie in 'True to Form' by Elizabeth Berg
Unfortunately, many reasons may prevent you from making those good choices for yourself — such as YOU don't think that your feelings and pain matter, that YOU don't deserve to be happy; that YOU can't stick up for yourself; that YOU can't do anything right; or that YOU don't care about being mistreated.
" ...what I focus on in life is what I get. And if I concentrate on how bad I am or how wrong I am or how inadequate I am, if I concentrate on what I can't do and how there's not enough time in which to do it, isn't that what I get every time? And when I think about how powerful I am, and when I think about what I have left to contribute, and when I think about the difference I can make on this planet, then that's what I get. You see, I recognize that it's not what happens to you; it's what you do about it." — W. Mitchell
Adjust your commitment to yourself by asking yourself several times a day if you're acting in your own interest. This routine is especially beneficial when you feel bad, sad, hurt, ashamed, worried, mistreated, guilty, frustrated, stressed, irritated, or pressured. Remember how you feel being with someone who loves you and being for someone you love [like a child, pet, or best friend]. Give those same feelings of care and support to yourself. Identify any feelings of resistance to that care and support for yourself — then mentally throw it away! You are just as important and have the same rights as everyone else, so take care of yourself first in order to then help others.
"We cannot achieve more in life than what we believe in our heart of hearts we deserve to have." — James R. Ball
Enjoy life now — it has an expiration date!
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